I am many things – a doctor of psychology, occupational psychologist, trained coach, consultant, mediator, NLP practitioner, development consultant, a writer, a partner, step-mother by deed rather than marriage documents, small-time property developer, sailor and boat lover. I try to be sassy, clever and funny but often end up grumpy and snarly when I see women held back – either by themselves or by ‘experts’. I am 54. I would like to be a size 12 and I dye my hair. I also try to be a friend, a thinker, an advisor. My best days are when someone says I have made a difference to their confidence or their career and helped them make a positive shift in their mind, body or soul. But truth to tell, I am just like you – a woman who fights to keep her Sassy side live.

This blog will not tell you my daily coming and going (far too dull) or the clothes that I wear (far too conservative until I retire). It will be a weekly observation on what has made my Sassy side scream, cheer, laugh, think or shout.


So Michelle Obama has imposter syndrome 

But while we all gasp in horror at the highly educated, former first lady actually worrying that she might not be good enough, we might as well look around the room at all the women we work with. For, in my experience, the majority of us have experienced exactly the same thing.

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Sleep – top tips for getting sufficient sleep

Are you sleeping well?

If you are not really attending to this essential bit of brain maintenance, you are increasing your risk of dementia, heart disease, high blood pressure, weight gain, diabetes and even cancer. Back in 2007, the World Health Organisation declared shift-work carcinogenic as the body never adjusts to reversing night and day.

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Forever Friends

Forever friends – and top tips for keeping them

I have to say I am a lucky woman. I have friends I do not deserve. Why? Because I have spent the past 20 years putting work, clients and then more work before the people who are important to me. It is not that I do not think about them – but I have not spent enough time with them.

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Embrace your years – top tips for loving your age

Yesterday I listened in stunned disbelief as a doughty Dutchman - Emile Ratelband – stated on morning TV that he was choosing to reduce his legal age by 20 years. His logic….if you can call it logic…was that if there is fluidity of gender then why can’t you have fluidity of age?

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Body positive – confidence or a cover up?

Where do you stand on fat? Should you be proud, ashamed, confident, covered up?

Last week I was listening to the wonderful Women’s Hour on the impact of the Body Positive Movement – that radical group of black women who stood up in the 1990s and refused to be shamed for having bodies bigger than the norm. I started off positive and by the end of the interview – pretty angry.

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Are you facing a SAD winter? Top tips for managing seasonal affective disorder

On Saturday the clocks go back and we officially move from summer time to winter. Evenings will be shorter and soon we will be going to and returning from work in the dark.

I hold my hand up. I find winters harder and harder as I get older.

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