I am many things – a doctor of psychology, occupational psychologist, trained coach, consultant, mediator, NLP practitioner, development consultant, a writer, a partner, step-mother by deed rather than marriage documents, small-time property developer, sailor and boat lover. I try to be sassy, clever and funny but often end up grumpy and snarly when I see women held back – either by themselves or by ‘experts’. I am 54. I would like to be a size 12 and I dye my hair. I also try to be a friend, a thinker, an advisor. My best days are when someone says I have made a difference to their confidence or their career and helped them make a positive shift in their mind, body or soul. But truth to tell, I am just like you – a woman who fights to keep her Sassy side live.

This blog will not tell you my daily coming and going (far too dull) or the clothes that I wear (far too conservative until I retire). It will be a weekly observation on what has made my Sassy side scream, cheer, laugh, think or shout.

Forever Friends

Forever friends – and top tips for keeping them

I have to say I am a lucky woman. I have friends I do not deserve. Why? Because I have spent the past 20 years putting work, clients and then more work before the people who are important to me. It is not that I do not think about them – but I have not spent enough time with them.

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Embrace your years – top tips for loving your age

Yesterday I listened in stunned disbelief as a doughty Dutchman - Emile Ratelband – stated on morning TV that he was choosing to reduce his legal age by 20 years. His logic….if you can call it logic…was that if there is fluidity of gender then why can’t you have fluidity of age?

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Body positive – confidence or a cover up?

Where do you stand on fat? Should you be proud, ashamed, confident, covered up?

Last week I was listening to the wonderful Women’s Hour on the impact of the Body Positive Movement – that radical group of black women who stood up in the 1990s and refused to be shamed for having bodies bigger than the norm. I started off positive and by the end of the interview – pretty angry.

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Are you facing a SAD winter? Top tips for managing seasonal affective disorder

On Saturday the clocks go back and we officially move from summer time to winter. Evenings will be shorter and soon we will be going to and returning from work in the dark.

I hold my hand up. I find winters harder and harder as I get older.


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Toxic friends – how do you spot them? And top tips for escaping them

We are all enthralled with the news of Theresa May being attacked, even threatened by fellow MPs who are strong of words and weak of backbone – preferring to stay anonymous while sending out aggressive threats such as requesting she brings ‘her own noose to backbencher meetings’.

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Attached and lonely – tips for women in relationships but lonely

This week, the BBC is revealing the results of their survey and research into loneliness.

Helped by people such as Professor Pamela Qualter

The BBC surveyed over 55,000 people and shone a light on a rarely discussed subject. Just some of the worrying results are:

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